Arming Victims of Domestic Abuse, is it the answer?

I recently read watched a video Link here where a michigan law maker is proposing arming victims of domestic abuse, educating them and allowing them to carry weapons in schools, churches, everywhere they go.  Is this the answer? 

As someone who suffered years of abuse myself I am puzzled as to why this law maker thinks this would be the answer.  I think I understand what he is trying to accomplish.  I think he believes people who have been abused are victims and that we need to be giving a weapon because we are not strong enough on our own to defend ourselves.   I see his point.  However, he is wrong.  

I was raised in an abusive home.  Then I spent 16 years in an abusive marriage.  I was naive, I didn't think it was abuse.  NO matter what happened, I made excuses for my abusers.  When someone finally cared enough to step into my life and said Sarah that behavior is wrong, you will change the situation or we will take your children away from you.    Guess what?  My eyes were finally opened.  I started to see my life for what it was. I realized not everyone lived the way my children and I were living.

Back to the topic at hand, giving guns to people who have been abused in the past.  People who have stalkers. I have been told many times over the years that I should get a Conceal and Carry license.  I should have a gun in my home.  My past abuser has broken into my home multiple times, slashed my tires, broken my windshield, hacked my personal accounts, and much much more.  I gave the gun issue a lot of thought.  I think I am the only member of my quite large family that does not have a conceal and carry license. 

Here are my reasons for refusing to get a gun: If I have a gun and my past abuser and I have a confrontation of any kind that results in me shooting him.  Either he will die or he will be wounded.   A) He is the father of my children.  Do I need to say more?     B) A gun is just a gun.  It can be taken away, manipulated and used against you.  An abuser is manipulative, controlling and horrible.  That is why they are called abusers.   when I use my inner strength, the lessons I have learned, my dignity, my strength and beauty - those cannot be twisted, taken away, manipulated or used against me.  Ever.  I am stronger and better than he is. Every single day. In every single situation.   I do not need a gun.  

I believe there are situations when educating and arming Abuse Survivors is appropriate.  However, it should not be every survivor and it should not be done without a lot of care and counseling.  My children and I all have PTSD.  and our abuser was not physically abusive.  I am the only one he tried to kill.

Abuse Survivors are STRONG enough to survive, fight back and be well equipped emotionally if we will support them and continue to be there for them.  Don't let them down. If you are an Abuse Survivor, if you have ever been close to an Abuse Survivor you recognize the signs.  Step in, just be a friend, you know what to do and how to do it.  Give them the strength they don't think they have.   That is the BEST way you can ever ARM someone who is being abused.